Let's Stop Blaming Female Victims of Sex Crimes: Sex Offenders and Unregulated Internet Sperm 'Donor' Platforms
It is a sad reflection of our culture that so many people find it far easier to blame a female victim of sex crime than to scrutinize the actions of the male perpetrator who has committed the heinous crime(s). This cultural assignment of blame is inevitably heaped upon the victim when she returns to see the perpetrator, without any consideration for the complex factors or circumstances involved. In the case of women who are sexually assaulted or raped by men they have met via unregulated Internet sperm donor platforms, there is a profound ignorance of the complex socio-economic and psycho-social factors that compel them to maintain contact with their abuser in order to conceive a child. Of course, blaming a female victim for being raped will always be the easier choice in contrast to critically scrutinizing and accepting that a man - perhaps one we know - is in actual fact a sex offender. Women who log online to locate a man to help with conception are not asking to be raped or sexually assaulted - they do not deserve to be the victim of serious sexual offences. When such crimes are committed, we need to understand that walking away from such intimate abuse is not always the easiest or most straightforward option. Some women may continue to see their abuser to try and conceive a child and we need to understand the complex factors guiding their behaviour rather than simply judging such behaviour in a cultural vortex. Below, is just a snapshot of reasons why women may not walk away from sex offenders in the unregulated sperm donor cyber community.
Founder of the Sperm Donor Abuse Foundation. Striving to share knowledge and raise awareness about the dangers awaiting women when they go online to find an unregulated sperm donor.